Update/Clarification: Change is on the way

11/1/16: At this stage, GrammarPride has had nearly 30,000 views and we have been overwhelmed by hundreds of emails and messages of support. Thank you to everyone for your support for LGBTQIA students at Grammar and beyond. We also feel it’s worth clarifying what we’re trying to achieve with this website. We have received an…

Henry Yuen (Dux ’12)

UPDATED 11/1/16: The Grammar Way. They are lessons of life that dictate every decision that I made and continue to make. Whether we learn humility by failing miserably at Mr Grover’s exams, or respect by being dazzled by Mr Lee’s dancing, The Grammar Way shapes us into proud courageous leaders. When we talk about having Pride,…

Joel Bateman (Head Prefect ’12)

UPDATED 11/1/16: I will always be grateful for the incredible experiences that I had at Grammar and how those experiences helped me to become the person that I am today. I benefited greatly from being in a competitive environment which valued academic rigor and sporting success, and was even fortunate enough to be appointed Head…

The Next Step

We are starting a new initiative to better support LGBTQ high school students around New Zealand. The ultimate goal is to create a tangible action plan for high schools to effectively support their LGBTQ community, while exploring the experiences of LGBTQ students from all around the country. We are looking for talented people to fill in new roles…

James Klaassen (’09)

I moved to Grammar in 2007 at the age of 15, seeking to benefit from its climate of success and academic rigour. I had aspired to become a doctor since the age of 4 years old, and knew of the school’s reputation for providing an astounding success rate of med-entry. From day one I knew…

Lachlan Kermode (’12)

I didn’t personally struggle with homophobia at Grammar. In 5th form, I got involved with the production some guys did with EGGS down the road, and joined the choir, which eventually became the barbershop chorus, Grammacoustix. My aunt taught me how to knit, and I used to make beanies for girlfriends I had made by…

Avinash de Silva (’11)

Let me begin by saying that I am unreservedly apologetic for contributing to the homophobic culture that was unfortunately quite prevalent at AGS. I had a very easy run through high school and thoroughly enjoyed every second of it. The memories that I have of my time there are absolutely invaluable, as are the people…

Anonymous

I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to truly admit to myself that I am bi. The thought terrifies me. Fitting in at Grammar was hard enough, and to question my sexuality would have led to another target on my back. In order to fit in or to seem cool, you use those same…

Danny Lam (’13)

UPDATED 13/1/16: I attended Grammar from ’09 to ’13, and I was openly gay from 4th form onwards (Year 10). While I’m not aware of any changes that have hopefully happened since, I fear that many schools are still caught in the mentality that LGBT+ issues should be hushed and awkwardly skimmed over, if mentioned…

Keegan Elliot (Form 7)

UPDATED 11/1/2016: Knowing I was gay from age ten was tough, as I was mocked and bullied through my 2 years of intermediate school due to me acting “flamboyant”. Throughout my early time at Grammar, I often had the terms ‘fag‘ and ‘homo’ slurred at my face. I finally came to terms with who I was…

Jordan Seymour (’12)

  UPDATED 12/1/16: Looking back at my time at Grammar I feel I got off relatively easily compared to others. I spent the first few years of my Grammar life simply watching in the background, trying to find a place I fit in with a group of people I felt like would accept me. During…

Anonymous

Starting Grammar, I had always known that I was different. Knowing that I would never truly be accepted for who I was and who I liked, so I hid it from people. My first year at Grammar was great, no bullying, harassment or exposing my secret but my later years were hell. Getting put in a…

Ben Kidd (Form 7)

My name is Ben Kidd and I am in my last year of school at Grammar this year. To say that it was easy coming out would be a lie. As someone who has been at the school’s hostel for the entirety of my time at Grammar, my situation was made doubly as difficult. For…

Tim Robinson (’12)

I think I had the smoothest time at Grammar that I could have had. I avoided the general negativity of the prevailing culture by choosing really good friends. I formed a great circle of friends that understood me and most of whom have remained with me throughout uni. I never came out ‘officially’, but I didn’t try…